Living Open


We are rapidly approaching the end of MONTH 1 of 2014 and this has TRULY been a month of JOY for me.  There were trying times throughout the month, but I can honestly say that being intentional about my joy helped make this month, well JOYOUS!

it seemed that my intentional joyous living energized me as the month went on.  I can’t explain it, but it felt wonderful to feel like I’m finally headed in the right direction and that I can see clearly, but most importantly it’s taught me to live (or at least I’m learning to live) with a life that is wide open.

Years ago and on some level months ago, the concept of living open scared me.  It meant that I would have to I let my guard down and embrace whatever I was being presented with at the time.  it would force me to look at myself and how I was living life.  I would have to pick up the “mirror” and stare into it and determine if I like what I saw. 

This by no means has anything to do with self-esteem or self-worth, but more about living life from a place of freedom.  What was holding me back anyway from living free?  I’m not married/in relationship. The kids are gone…what was stopping me from living an open life?  Oh yeah….ME

I’m sure if you allowed yourself to think about it at as well, you will find that the limiting behaviors point back to you.  Okay, now what….how do you move to the next level from acceptance (that it’s us) to doing something about it.

Step #1 – Do You

Live life with no apologies.  No, this is not license to be rude or disrespectful to people. it’s about you living the life that you envisioned for yourself before the husband, the kids or the job.  You lived life on your on terms. It may be a tough step or even a foreign concept to you, but be brave and true to who you are — wearing unnecessary masks just to fit in or avoid facing the reality of YOU can make life feel hopeless and imprisoning! Take back your right to be you in front of everyone and in every situation. When you are yourself, you not only invite others to do the same, but you become a bright watch tower for the people you’d wish would find you.

Step #2 – Hear the Voices

Okay..okay…right off that sounds crazy, but there IS a voice inside of you that is always speaking.  We tend to drown it out with distractions.  We must learn to be okay with silence.  Turn off the TV, remove the earbuds and just be quiet.  When you do, you will discover that a deeper, all-knowing conversation is happening. It takes practice to hear this voice, just as it takes practice to hear your heart’s desire, to trust your gut and to listen to your intuition.  Pay attention to the whisper and those moments that remind you of what’s important to you. Keep listening and keep following the signs. You have the ability to live a life that’s true to who you are and a life that you really want.  Listen like your life depends on it, because it does.

Step #3 – Take the risk

Make choices that put yourself first — above everything and everyone else, even those you love and cherish the most. If you don’t take care of yourself, if you don’t do what is best for you, your relationships will eventually suffer. Trust in the fact that doing what is best for you IS best for everyone even if it doesn’t feel like it at first. Sometimes sacrifices have to made. People will get hurt  and there will be losses because people may or may not understand, but the rewards gained from following your heart are absolutely everything in comparison.  Do something difficult for no other reason than that you like to do it.

Step #4 – Believe

The “secret’ formula is to “Believe in yourself and people will believe in you.” Don’t give up because of your self-imposed limitations.  So many of us give up before we even get started. We give up before we are even faced with the first obstacle in our journey Why? We really didn’t believe in the first place.  If you don’t believe in yourself you will end up throwing away your creativity,  ideas and opportunities. On the other hand, if you believe in yourself, you will no matter the outcome, find success even in what you perceive as the greatest of losses.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful
than the risk it took to blossom.” — Anais Nin

Step #5 – Defy your genetics

Don’t allow the limitations of your parents or their parents deter you from your path. See it all as potential to break any generational curses or patterns that limit you. Determine that you are going to a place in your life where neither you, your mother or your mother’s mother, have ever gone before. YOU hold the torch. Create a legacy.  You are the architect of your existence.

Step #6 – Integrate into wholeness

Accept all parts of your life. All parts. The broken parts, those not “quite so healed” parts and the good parts and create something good  great out of it.   To integrate means to make into whole: to join two or more objects or make something part of a larger whole, or be joined or made part of a larger whole.  That’s what makes you.  Take all of those scattered you’s and become YOU…one that is whole and lacking nothing.

Step #7 – Recognize that you already have everything you need to be you

Clear away the small minded and limiting ideas of who you are that keep you bound and feeling small, hopeless, even unworthy. You already have everything — everything you need to be you.

All of these above suggestions puts/keeps you on the path to living open and free.  Living open takes practice and patience.  You/we must willing to do the hard work, but this is not something that will happen overnight but it MUST happen.  Take the first step today towards living a freer life.  I promise you won’t regret it.

As always, I would LOVE to hear from you, so feel free to contact me at or by leaving a comment here.

Until next time….




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