Just the thought of the word quicksand made me cringe when the concept for the blog came to me. QUICKSAND….really?!??!
While I had a low level…movie version of what quicksand is, upon more research I learned some very interesting facts about quicksand and my gosh, this is just how 2017 was for me.
Quicksand is not quite the fearsome force of nature that you sometimes see on the big screen. In fact, quicksand is rarely deeper than a few feet. (Imagine that)
It can occur almost anywhere if the right conditions are present. Quicksand is basically just ordinary sand that has been so saturated with water that the friction between sand particles is reduced. The resulting sand is a mushy mixture of sand and water that can no longer support any weight.
Rest easy…if you step into quicksand, it won’t suck you down. However, your movements will cause you to dig yourself deeper into it.
Quicksand is created when water saturates an area of loose sand and the ordinary sand is agitated. When the water trapped in the batch of sand can’t escape, it creates liquefied soil that can no longer support weight. There are two ways in which sand can become agitated enough to create quicksand:
- Flowing underground water – The force of the upward water flow opposes the force of gravity, causing the granules of sand to be more buoyant.
- Earthquakes – The force of the shaking ground can increase the pressure of shallow groundwater, which liquefies sand and silt deposits. The liquefied surface loses strength, causing buildings or other objects on that surface to sink or fall over.
Quicksand, in real life, can show up in various forms, a loss of a job or a loved one, a divorce, *insert your specific issue here*. Sometimes you don’t realize that the quicksand is there, until you step in it.
If you ever find yourself in “quicksand”, here are some tips to help you pull yourself out.
Don’t panic! – We tend to overanalyze and rehearse the worst possible scenarios in our head, which causes us to panic. Whatever situation (quicksand) that you find yourself in is not going to “swallow you whole”, although it may seem like it at the time. Breathe deeply….cry…whatever you have to do, but just don’t panic.
Stop flailing around and relax. People drown in quicksand because they panic and begin flailing their arms and legs. Our natural instinct when we are in a situation is one of two things: Do something…usually quickly and with no real plan or do nothing at all, hoping and praying that it go away.
The key to surviving quicksand is slow movements. During this time, be strategic and intentional about your movements and don’t make any major decisions during this time until you have a plan.
Ask for the help! – It’s okay to ask for help. Sometimes, we feel like we have to be a “superhero”, especially, as women. Just talking to a TRUSTED friend will confirm that you aren’t alone.
My “YEAR of Quicksand, came as a result of an “earthquake”. My world was SHOOK and I was in a “woman down” situation. I will admit, I MESSED UP and “bigly”. I panicked, I made knee jerk decisions, I cried…A LOT, and beat myself for how I got there. I didn’t lean on my “tribe” until MUCH later in the process. I was tired from trying to keep my head above water, but most importantly tired from my trying not to drown.
It wasn’t until I took a deep breath, acknowledged the mess I was in and how I got there was I able to create a plan and get out of the quicksand. I am by NO means saying it was easy, hell, it took me the ENTIRE YEAR, but it was worth it. Honestly, it wasn’t until I acknowledged my part that the “plan” arrived.
Remember, there’s very little to be afraid of in real life. As long as you keep a cool head in the situation, the worst result will be a shoe full of wet sand.
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