So, I’ve started doing things that I’ve wanted to do, but hadn’t done because of the “What Ifs”. This year, little by little, I’ve been doing things that make me “shake in my stilettos”. (There’s something about being an entrepreneur and needing to eat that helps with this…lol)
I’ve spent the last 4 or 5 months putting myself out there under the guise of “shooting for the moon, but landing in the stars”. Sometimes, I’ve landed on the moon and other times, I’ve been knocked back down to earth, but while my ego has been a little bruised, I refuse to give up.
So, yesterday, I left the “office” early and decided to get out in the sun for a bit.
Right now, I’m shaking in my stilettos. What if I’ve been wrong all this time. What if everything I thought I knew was…well…a lie?
I wrote this yesterday, as I braved the “wilderness, I allowed myself to be vulnerable with myself. Surrounded by ducks, birds, and ants (ie., the wilderness) I gave myself permission to celebrate…me.
I woke up this morning to the news that the Texas Conference for Women released their speaker’s line-up publicly. There…at the bottom of the page, was my name and my picture. I sat there for a few minutes gathering myself and allowing myself to sit in this for a minute.
Then, the “what-ifs” begin to roll in. Sometimes the job of the “what-ifs” is to keep you silent and, in this case, stop you from celebrating something beautiful that is happening to and for you.
While looking for supporting pics for this blog, I stumbled on an article called “How To Walk in High Heels”. While the content is unrelated, it was a springboard right into the points of doing things while “shaking in your stilettos”.
Tip 1: “Don’t start by diving in the deep in the of the pool”
I agree with a modified version of this “tip”. I’m all about jumping off the deep end of the pool, but only if I’m about being prepared for the leap. You don’t want to dive into the deep end of the pool, with regular clothes, shoes, and your cell phone in your pocket.
When you decide to dive in the deep end of the pool, while #SIYS (shaking in your stilettos) , be prepared!
Tip 2: “Walk on air”
So, you just applied for that job, applied for school, just submitted your proposal for you book or just put in your two week notice at work. Celebrate because you did it! And if you dare….share the news with those in your tribe that will help you celebrate.
Tip 3: “Practice Your Walk”
Even If things don’t turn out the way you anticipated or even if they did, you still must practice walking in your “new shoes”. Walking in your “shaking stilettos” takes a special skill…lol. I mean, you’ve seen the runway models that walk in the craziest designer shoes, but they walk in them as professionals, because they are. #yougotthis
Bonus tip: “Throw a little wiggle with it”
As you begin to practice your walk, the walk will become less about the “shaking stilettos” and more about “putting a wiggle in your walk”, which is simply the confidence that comes with continuing putting one foot in front of the other.
The cool thing about this whole process is, once you start walking, even in “shaking stilettos”, you will find people walking the same or similar paths to yours. This discovery will lead you to “walking buddies” that not only will keep you accountable, but will also compliment you on your “cute shoes”.
Feel free to leave your comments and share this with others that may be “shaking in their stilettos”.
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